I am a young Cameroonian student in my second year (L2) at FSJP in Yaoundé II. For a while now, I’ve been feeling increasingly exhausted. I keep getting remarks from people around me—close friends and others—about the fact that I am still single and a virgin. One person even went as far as to say that it's "not normal," simply because I don't like going out or partying. It's important to note that I am not a party person by nature, and my health situation doesn't allow for it anyway (no alcohol, no tobacco, struggling with obesity, less sugar, less salt, yearly urine tests, etc.). It’s complicated, and even though not everyone knows all of this, I still think they should respect my choices.

It’s true that I don't tolerate the presence of men or strangers around me very well; sometimes I just want to be alone. Of course, I would love to be able to love someone (a man) madly, to hold hands, endure his caresses, kiss, maybe even go further, but all of that feels like an ordeal to me right now. I know nothing about love. I know I shouldn't put pressure on myself for fear of making a terrible mistake, but what am I supposed to do?

I am exhausted. I’ve been feeling an immense sense of fatigue for a while now. I can no longer concentrate on my studies, I sleep more than 10 hours a day without feeling rested, and I'm looking increasingly pale with tired eyes and violent headaches overtaking me. At times, I just want to sleep deeply and not wake up for entire weeks or months—not to die, I want to live, but peacefully.

What should I do? Please help me, I am at my wit's end, I can't take it anymore🙌🙌😞😞😞.

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I am a young Cameroonian student in my second year (L2) at FSJP in Yaoundé II. For a while now, I’ve been feeling increasingly exhausted. I keep getting remarks from people around me—close friends and others—about the fact that I am still single and a virgin. One person even went as far as to say that it's "not normal," simply because I don't like going out or partying. It's important to note that I am not a party person by nature, and my health situation doesn't allow for it anyway (no alcohol, no tobacco, struggling with obesity, less sugar, less salt, yearly urine tests, etc.). It’s complicated, and even though not everyone knows all of this, I still think they should respect my choices.

It’s true that I don't tolerate the presence of men or strangers around me very well; sometimes I just want to be alone. Of course, I would love to be able to love someone (a man) madly, to hold hands, endure his caresses, kiss, maybe even go further, but all of that feels like an ordeal to me right now. I know nothing about love. I know I shouldn't put pressure on myself for fear of making a terrible mistake, but what am I supposed to do?

I am exhausted. I’ve been feeling an immense sense of fatigue for a while now. I can no longer concentrate on my studies, I sleep more than 10 hours a day without feeling rested, and I'm looking increasingly pale with tired eyes and violent headaches overtaking me. At times, I just want to sleep deeply and not wake up for entire weeks or months—not to die, I want to live, but peacefully.

What should I do? Please help me, I am at my wit's end, I can't take it anymore🙌🙌😞😞😞.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

if you dont want to be with something that is completely fine. Try not to feel pressured by people around you for living how you want to live. As a young adult who's never been to a party or dated anyone I understand how you're feeling, but I also enjoy not doing those things. I would maybe see a doctor or something about the fatigue and headaches though. hope this helps :)))