“I am 23 year old girl from India, and I feel like I'm stuck in life and I'm employed buty job WFH only, so I don't go out unless it's absolutely necessary and my parents are strict and toxic, I was in a relationship few years back and my parents found out typical things that happens after happened and I'm not dating that guy anymore, ever since that my relationship with my parents changed, i cannot see them the same anymore. I'm mostly a obedient kid whatever my parents say I'll do, i don't oppose or do anything to them. All my life I've live my life the way they wanted me to live but choosing something for myself for the first time they cannot accept it and suddenly I'm a B. It's like they love me as long as I love under their terms and conditions, if i don't then I'm bad daughter and all my life that I've spent to make them happy means nothing. Ever since I realised this I've maintaining my distance with them too and this causes problem in our house every single day, and they tell me to "get out of their house if I can't act how they want" almost every single day. I can not handle the mental pressure anymore I decide to leave my house and live in pg. I'm strong with that decision but at the same time I'm questioning every single thing my life and if I made the right choice. Because everything aside they're still my parents and I'm still their daughter even though we show hate to eachother all the time deep inside we all know i love them and I know they love me and that's making it hard for me to make a decision. I can't leave but I definitely cannot stay either. What should I do”
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Someone answered with kindness...
They are toxic. Moving out doesn't mean that you don't love them. It's crazy that you think like this.
They love the obedient version of you. Start disappointing them. Fight for yourself and try to enjoy this life .
As a girl I know it's painful realising this. I have experienced this.
Pg life is great if you have okay roommates. Make some friends in that location who will help you. Also maintain a boundary with your parents. .if it's hard , just imagine that your child is in your place and you are in your parents place , will you still behave like your parents ? Is this how you will show love to your own child ??
Also don't give up on your happiness to make others happy. In the end you are still bad. It doesn't matter if you made one mistake or hundred.
If you still stayed like this , you will not be able to make decisions about your upcoming future life .
So just think about it