I am 19 and I really like this guy, I have never been in a relationship and I mean I am not desperate for one, I just feel so safe with this person, I mean we work together, and he is at a higher position than me, basically my boss, and he is 23. He is sweet, so genuine, listens when I talk, very considerate, and sometimes I feel like he is only being nice cuz well he is nice to everyone and he kinda has to cuz he is running this place, but sometimes he talks to me so gently and like never makes me feel ashamed or awkward or embarrassed when I say something stupid which I always do. I feel so connected to him, he would care, and come and start a conversation with me and stuff sometimes, and I catch him looking at me, and sometimes he gets really serious and a bit distant, like somedays we joke around a lot with each other and other days he doesn’t even look at me. He would come and ask how my college is going and stuff but if I ask him something, like how old he is, he would just get super shocked about it, like I should not be asking him that! I don’t get it
One time I spilled boiling water on my hand, and winced and he was right there, and I told him I was okay but still wanted to check my hand, and when he insisted I showed it to him and he barely touched it, like he was afraid to touch my hand, and a lot of times he does stuff without me having to say it but I sometimes feel he is just doing that because he is a nice person.
I love the people I work with, I wanna tell him how I feel about him and move on but I also keep thinking about how I would never be able to face him again, how I probably would never go back to that place to even say hi if he would be there, and my parents don’t allow me to date, and I sometimes feel if he said yes, what would I do then?! Idk what to doooo

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I am 19 and I really like this guy, I have never been in a relationship and I mean I am not desperate for one, I just feel so safe with this person, I mean we work together, and he is at a higher position than me, basically my boss, and he is 23. He is sweet, so genuine, listens when I talk, very considerate, and sometimes I feel like he is only being nice cuz well he is nice to everyone and he kinda has to cuz he is running this place, but sometimes he talks to me so gently and like never makes me feel ashamed or awkward or embarrassed when I say something stupid which I always do. I feel so connected to him, he would care, and come and start a conversation with me and stuff sometimes, and I catch him looking at me, and sometimes he gets really serious and a bit distant, like somedays we joke around a lot with each other and other days he doesn’t even look at me. He would come and ask how my college is going and stuff but if I ask him something, like how old he is, he would just get super shocked about it, like I should not be asking him that! I don’t get it
One time I spilled boiling water on my hand, and winced and he was right there, and I told him I was okay but still wanted to check my hand, and when he insisted I showed it to him and he barely touched it, like he was afraid to touch my hand, and a lot of times he does stuff without me having to say it but I sometimes feel he is just doing that because he is a nice person. 
I love the people I work with, I wanna tell him how I feel about him and move on but I also keep thinking about how I would never be able to face him again, how I probably would never go back to that place to even say hi if he would be there, and my parents don’t allow me to date, and I sometimes feel if he said yes, what would I do then?! Idk what to doooo

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

We'll I'd say if you think it won't affect your job, then confess, that's best for you, it's better to confess rather than keep wondering, n if says yes, then go ahead 
But yea first check ur future, if there's a possibility of future then date him girl
About parents you can tell them later when you are in a better and stable situation, I'm sure they'll agree that time, they aren't letting you date rn because u r too young