“How to remove anxious attachment from someone without breaking the bond or the friendship . I love my friend platonically not even romantically but it's just that iv been attached to her so much . That even a dry or late text makes me overthink everything . I normally overthink every single thing . But I have never been this attached to any friend. Sometimes I feel i dont get the efforts i put reciprocated in our friendship . And it's prolly bcs she has her bf and he's gonna be her priority ofcourse. He is one my best friends too and we all were in the same group . So anytime there's a fight she always comes to me to rant . And may it be anything I always ask follow up questions and I feel she doesn't do the same then I get disappointed so iv stopped sharing much instead I just listen and talk abt her situation only . It comes to my mind that maybe breaking the friendship would give me peace but it's just that she's already be betrayed this year itself and i can't be one more person whol betray her and break Friendship
She trusts me a lot and shares anything and I do to but it's just that I don't feel i get the same response as I give . Idk it just messes up my head everytime , any late text or anything . Any thoughts on not overthinking and removing anxious attachment . I Already do gym and baking as my passion and I bake manier times so pls suggest anything else than follow ur hobby or do gym or study . In college rn btw”
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Someone answered with kindness...
What about you tho? Don't you deserve to be heard? Are you gonna listen to all her problems for the rest of your life? What about your problems? Are you just going to shut down your feelings? You know suppressing emotions isn't good. You'll end up losing your memories or even basic things that you shouldn't forget. Just because she was betrayed doesn't mean you'll bleed your heart, EVERY.SINGLE.TIME just to mend hers.
And you can try crocheting, learning new languages ;even sign language, drawing, learn some psychological facts.
And unfortunately I can't help with how to not overthink and get rid of anxious attachment because I have that too and I still don't know how to do that