How to not be emotional about the situations that you cannot control and that you feel helpless about? you as a person have no personal control over it. Like I, me as a person is not good with animals. They bite me. They feel tense around me. I feel tense around them. So I can't go there to feed them or do anything with them. That's just how I am. I have always been this way. But I feel sad for them because when they're not fed, when they don't get water. So I tell my jerk brother that you should feed them on time. You should water them. You should do this. You should do that. But he never, he never, it seems like he does not even respect me anymore. And that even makes me more sad. So this is the situation where I don't know what to do. But I feel sad about it

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I think you should talk to your brother calmly like sit and have a real conversation about why it is bothering you, why you can't feed animals, if he is the one who got them as pets maybe he should take responsibility for it and take care of them. 
If not, i think you seem to care about those animals even though you think you are not good with them. I think you can be good with animals too, maybe try being more gentle and calm, or learn about what is making them bite you, maybe you did or touch them in a spot where they would bite like that, try to understand their behavior, learn more about them. You having this care and empathy for them is enough reason that you can take care of them may be you just need time, and don't ever label yourself as "this is just who i am" as you are never one fixed person, no one is. We, humans are always learning, growing, changing, our personalities are never fixed. If you take it like that, you might even be surprised discovering yourself more. That you can be this type of person, you can handle this situation, maybe you discover that you responded to a situation differently than you usually do, you might even enjoy the process of getting to know yourself too.