How do you move on from someone you still love, even after they made you feel like you were never enough?

It’s been almost a week since my girlfriend and I broke up after three years together. I thought I’d be able to handle it better, but I really can’t. I miss her a lot, especially at night. During the day, I keep myself busy, but once I’m alone, all the memories come rushing back.

I was always the one making efforts, trying to spend time together, starting conversations and asking for attention. Sometimes it felt like I had to beg for the smallest things. I knew it wasn’t healthy, and there were so many times I felt hurt and unwanted, but I kept holding on because I loved her.

Now that it’s over, I don’t know what to do. The strange thing is, I don’t even miss how I was treated, I just miss her. I miss talking to her, having her around and just knowing she was part of my life.

I keep hearing that I should focus on myself and move on, but how do you actually do that when you still love the person? I genuinely don’t know how to get past this, and I guess I just wanted to hear from people who’ve been through something similar.

Question

How do you move on from someone you still love, even after they made you feel like you were never enough?

It’s been almost a week since my girlfriend and I broke up after three years together. I thought I’d be able to handle it better, but I really can’t. I miss her a lot, especially at night. During the day, I keep myself busy, but once I’m alone, all the memories come rushing back.

I was always the one making efforts, trying to spend time together, starting conversations and asking for attention. Sometimes it felt like I had to beg for the smallest things. I knew it wasn’t healthy, and there were so many times I felt hurt and unwanted, but I kept holding on because I loved her.

Now that it’s over, I don’t know what to do. The strange thing is, I don’t even miss how I was treated, I just miss her. I miss talking to her, having her around and just knowing she was part of my life.

I keep hearing that I should focus on myself and move on, but how do you actually do that when you still love the person? I genuinely don’t know how to get past this, and I guess I just wanted to hear from people who’ve been through something similar.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Oh oh oh i want The ANSWER TOO, but not thinking about that person helped me alot like if a thought of thrm is passing by my mind i DON WASTE A MOMENT TO DISTRACT MY MIND and also stop stalking them it worsens the situation