“How do i show a person that i have really changed an i would not repeat the same mistakes again and how do i become a person who can handle criticism maturely and how do i get a chance back from someone after i have lost them”

Another soul answered...

hi, The absolute first question you need to ask yourself is whether you're genuinely seeking forgiveness and redemption, or whether you're simply trying to prove to be a good person. are you truly remorseful, or is the guilt just a momentary feeling brought on by the consequences of your actions? because if you genuinely regret what you've done, you need to be willing to take accountability without shifting the blame onto the other person, making excuses or turning yourself into the victim of the situation. and then, you need to be patient. I mean REALLY patient. you cannot expect someone to trust you again simply because you've realised where you went wrong. you may have taken a few days to understand your mistakes, but the other person might need months, or even years, to feel comfortable around you again and they are entitled to that time. as for criticism, learn to listen without immediately preparing a defence not every criticism is an attack on your character but ometimes, it is an opportunity to recognise something about yourself that you hadn't noticed before. take a moment before responding. ask yourself whether there's truth in what is being said, and if there is, acknowledge it. being mature doesn't mean never feeling hurt or getting defensive; it means not letting those feelings dictate how you treat the person speaking to you. how do you show someone you've changed? you don't announce it. you demonstrate it. Consistently. you change the behaviour, not just the apology. you stop repeating the same patterns, even when nobody is watching, even when you aren't being rewarded for it, and even when the person you hurt isn't there to acknowledge your progress. as for getting another chance, here's something you need to understand: you can become deserving of another chance without being entitled to one. You can apologise, make amends where possible, grow into a better person and genuinely mean every word of it, but you cannot decide whether someone wants to let you back into their life. that choice belongs to them. and if they never do, don't let that make your growth meaningless. Don't become better solely to be welcomed back by one person. Become better because you recognise that the person you were has things to answer for, and the person you become should not keep making others pay for them. you cannot undo what happened, but you can make sure it doesn't become a pattern. let your actions speak for you and let time do what promises cannot. hope this helps darling, (this might just be the best articulated advice ive ever written:D)