Someone once asked...
Someone answered with kindness...
A man once told me he still argued, in his head, with a version of himself from fifteen years ago — replaying decisions, rewriting what he should have said. I asked him what that fifteen-years-ago version of him actually knew at the time. Less than he knows now, obviously. You're not at peace with your past when you've proven it was right. You're at peace with it when you stop asking a younger, less informed version of yourself to have known better. He did what he could with what he had. So did you.
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"To make peace with," implies conflict, and no one can be in conflict with their past. You, in the present, have all the agency and the past, as salient as it may be, is an essentially static thing. It cannot attack, it cannot defend. It simply is. If the question means, "how do I stop dwelling on the past?" then I believe the answer lies in having desire for the future and the present. I have had painful experiences in the past, and sometimes I revisit them. But they sting much less when I am able to enjoy present things, even just my morning coffee, and when I look forward to future things, even mundane things like the changing of the seasons, the return of birds and butterflies, the stillness of autumn and winter, and so on.
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You must look inside yourself and see where your lettuce intake has been insufficient. Notice and repent. Then eat the lettuce.
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Accept your past for what it was. Not for what you hoped it was. It might sting to realize it for what it actually was. Don't ruminating over it too long. Process with a trusted friend or peer or a therapist or counselor. If you do find yourself coming back to a particular situation often, choose something else to think about instead. Something that brings you peace, happiness, comfort, good vibes, etc. You may not be able to change your past, but you do have your future. If you havent already, consider the ways you want to live your life (your values) and choose one to actively live out for a time frame (compassion, work ethic, creativity, integrity, honesty, bravery, etc). Live in such a way where you can be proud of the way you show up each day.
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Accept that you can’t change it. You can only avoid making the same mistakes again. Recognize that the past made you who you are, and become who you want to be.
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You can view your past from the perspective of an observer—observing, analyzing, and accepting it—which might make you feel a bit more at ease.
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我可以不上班，每天都出去玩吗？
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问问未来的自己是否愿意和现在的自己和解
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forget it
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Practice what you loved about your life and yourself before the past happened..
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You mean la peace?
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Well for starters, if the past you are talking is about a trauma or an external factor that disturbed you, facing it straight up and acknowledging your innocence is a good thing, accidents happen and alters one life very drastically, it takes courage and strength to bring your life back to track, if you did, be proud of it. if the past is about your mistakes, if you cringe about your past or feel corny when you think about the mistakes you did, you are growing, it shows that you are grown enough to look it as an action that you would never do and acknowledging the fact that the very actions you did made you as the person you are now also works, just look forward towards the present and future, avoid triggers that brings back the memories of a bad past, try to find the good memories and re-live it, try to build a stable future and give yourself a nice treat once in a while, don't let the poisons of yesterday kill your tomorrow, if something has happened, it has happened, there is nothing more to do about it, you cant alter it, but you can avoid it, if something triggers you, touch or feel something in front of you, books, keys, furniture, feel its texture, look at its colour, you can distract yourself and every time a trigger or remainder of the past occurs try to do these than resisting the thought, eventually you will lose the tendency to remember the stuff happened.
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forget about it
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just forget it now everything i behind you
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Focus on the present.
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Accept that it can't be changed, but the future can.
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go into the kitchen, grab salt and pepper, and cook the peas
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allow it to be the past. focus on your present, since that is where you are, and the future, since that is where you will be.
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dont stuck with those emotions, only way. best way
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Granting yourself the same grace you would give to others
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By accepting that the past is made of stone, and the present of clay. (Also, there's no forgiveness for those who cheat on their partners.)
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basically just understand that things will happen and that nothing that happened then can change the now, because you will never be the same as you were then. we are constantly changing and evolving and to tie yourself to a previous event or period only constricts your ability to grow
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keep thinking about it.
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The goal should be to make baby steps it gets better for everyone I promise in the meantime work on the little things ✨
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The person reading this right now is the you in the present, and the good thing is that you choose what to make of my words
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Allow yourself to feel the emotions in a controlled environment and the keep in mind that you cannot change your past but you can use it as a lesson for the future
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By not letting the past be your present.
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Every one has different past. All diffenrent but difficult on their own experience. Your past might be hard for you but be strong and always know that good times will come one way or another
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LaPeace. -kai cenat
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You make peace with becoming and doing better than what you were doing in your past. There's only so much you could've known before, but now, you've been provided with knowledge of how things panned out, what you did well, what you didn't do well, and the way to move forward is to not let yourself repeat those mistakes that you once did, otherwise what you may have done in the past is going to keep repeating itself. But more importantly, forgive yourself. Some things seemed right in the moment, maybe they were. Maybe they weren't. But you can always pave the way for something better. All the best!
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One monk carried a woman across a muddy stream. Hours later, he set her down. The other monk kept complaining about it. The first monk asked, "Are you still carrying her?" You must ask yourself the same question. Do not keep carrying what is finished.
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U DONT HAVE TO, JUST FORGET ABOUT IT ALREADY, THATS ALOT OF MOVIE TO WATCH AND SUFFER
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JUST WRITE A SONG ALREADY MAN
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Don't try to forget about it. Think about it, and try to find closure. Talk to a loved one or a trusted friend to understand your past better. You can only move forward by udnerstanding your past.
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How to start making peace with the past is first to accept that you can't change it. then you need to think of it happened it was meant to happen it has a reason and to stop thinking of only i did this or that
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idk. dont think about it i guess. i am not a monk btw
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just forget it unless you regret it then try to reckon with it
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Accept it and understand things can't change, but you can change your thoughts on it. It isn't a quick process, it will take time.
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get a lobotomy
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doesnt matter if you do the past doesnt exist anymore
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Atone for your mistakes and do better in the future
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Be aware that the past does not define neither the present or future. Finding balance is key to achieving tranquility in the long term. Refraining from arrogance when in victory and from despair when in defeat. It is humbling to know shame, but it is with this experience that we can grow into a better person and more comprehensively undertand other's pain.
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You must spend time with your past to make peace with it. Don't dwell, but revisit with an open mind.
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You don't - you tell it to stay in it's place and leave you the f*ck alone. Can't be friends with everyone right :)
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idk. I'm sorry.
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You focus on the future. Keep going. Never give up. Enjoy life to it's fullest.
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Succcc
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You don't. You account for it by living in the present, and learn from it sculpting the future.
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The past is not happening right now
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Understand you are worthy of change. Reflect on how acceptance will change your life. Focus on gratitude for the present.
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Sometimes this is really hard. We get stuck thinking about past mistakes, things we wish we had or hadn't done, wishing "if I could just go back" and thinking about all the things we could undo. But each mistake and little step put you here. First, think about if you're okay with your current situation and current life. If you can be okay with it, your past self worked to get you here and should rest at peace a little for that reason. If you're still unsteady or unhappy now, I think that's why you grapple with your past and the only thing you can do now is try and turn to the future and find a better peaceful present.
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Know that you are the person that you choose to be in this moment. It's not skirting accountability for the person you've been, it's placing responsibility on your present self instead to make positive changes. For example, if you've been an unhelpful person in the past, know that the next time an opportunity presents itself to be helpful, your helpfulness will be determined entirely on how helpful you are in that moment. Your past wouldn't matter, and it also won't guarantee that you'd be considered helpful in the future. Only the present would matter.
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Seek a hypnotherapist or learn self-hypnosis or have your partner help you with it. I learned hypnosis from a course "secrets of erotic hypnosis" which is available via torrent engines.
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Simply ignore it =)
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Breath in for the count of five. Hold for the count of five. Breath out for the count of five. Hold for the count of five. repeat.
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the past is irrelevant. it already happened.
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It is very hard. First you must truly change. Stop doing the things that you regret. Then when you have grown enough that you are not that person anymore, then you can work on forgiving yourself first. Then seek forgiveness from those you harmed if you can.
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Focus on the present. Plan for the future. Over time, the past will loom less large,
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Be gayer
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you don't need. you need to live for this moment
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Forgiveness.
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Accept that you will never forget, but equally so that your present choices determine your future. Your past has led you to where you are, but it doesn't have to dictate where you go. You hold that power.
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Therapy has helped me a lot in this regard. If that's something within your reach, I'd encourage you to seek it.
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You accept that it is fixed. Nothing you can do will change it. But, you can turn a tragedy into tuition by asking yourself: What did I learn? What do I want to happen differently next time? How can I prepare to make that change.
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Acceptance. First you have to make peace with yourself. Look inward and decide what role if any you had, work on accepting those parts. Then practice finding self-energy, focus on the 7 C's, and accept that sometimes peace can't be made where its not wanted.
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Accept that time moves in one direction. The only self you can change is the present one.
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forget it my nigga. the past is the past. u gain nothing over dwelling over something you cannot control
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What has happened has happened. Torturing or punishing yourself can’t change the past but perhaps that can guide you to a more positive future for yourself or others. If we can not forgive, what incentive is there to change.
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Accept that it's happened and you can't change it, and strive to examine and learn from your past with the aim of improving the present and future.
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Forgive.
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Make peace with your present. You can't change your past so ease your present turmoil to see your past with more clarity and equanimity.
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To make peace with one's past is to recognize that we are all products of circumstance. We do not choose our parents, our family, our birth conditions, or our environment. These are all products of heaven, or fate. The choices that we make with what we are given determines who are in the present. If you are to truly overcome your past and make peace with it, you must understand, that you made the best possible decisions that you could have, with the information you had, and in the time that was available to you. If you do this, if you live each day with consciousness, you will die without regret, for you lived an examined life.
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meh, you probably don't completely, just do your best to keep living and shoot for a future you like
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By forgetting it and moving on.
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Things in the past cannot be changed only accepted. The best thing you can do is forgive and forget.
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You don't. You just chose to move forward ensuring you don't regret the decision you make. Own it and move on.
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Accept your past. You cannot change things in the past nor in the future. Thank your past. It was necessary to become who you are now. Forgive your past. It's just a uncomplete, blurry memory in your brain. Look forward, step forward. today will be the past of tomorrow.
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Turn around.
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Begin with compassion. Mind double standards--don't be harder on yourself than you would be on others, nor excuse what you wouldn't for another. Remind yourself who you want to be, and what you value in your life, and align yourself with the will to pursue that path. And finally take time for rest--healing takes time, as does growing, and all forms of creation have their cycles.
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Frodo: I wish the Ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened. Gandalf: So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. I started to answer in my own way when one of my favorite quotes came sharply to mind. You may always wrestle with your past, the decisions you’ve made or what’s happened to you, but you don’t have to let those things define you.
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Accepting what it is, It's not going to change Just learn from it, try not to make the same mistakes. If you hurt someone, be humble and apologize.
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Well, accept that what matters is now. People change, you know. Strive to build the image you are comfortable with... even if it goes against some people. There always will be judgement.
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you are thankful for it and focus on the present
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Past doesn't exist it's just a story present is all u have in order to make peace accept that and move forward and learn from it
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The past is not more than a dead cat's scull.
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It is not your past
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Do better now that you know better. Forgive yourself and be grateful you have a chance to do better now and for as long as you live
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By realising it is past you
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Can't change it.
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First make peace with yourself.
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Realize that your past made you who you are today, a person capable of self-reflection and most importantly the will to improve themselves.
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Watch back to the future and find some puffer vests
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There are many cliches I could say here, but I think this depends if by 'past' you mean something that has happened to you, or something you've done that you regret. I know I have examples of both. In the former, after the wounds aren't fresh anymore, you have to forgive but not forget. You can make peace but you also need to set up your life in such a way that you won't depend on the people who hurt you, or the types of people like the ones who hurt you. In the latter, meditate on your emotions and understand why you did what you did. You will have to forgive yourself as well, but your enviornment is also a huge aspect to why you act a certain way. Changing that environment may be key to not acting in the way you regret again.
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Accept it. The past has already become karma. What remains in the present is its impression in you, what Hindu thought calls samskara: memory, habit, fear, regret, attachment. The event may be over, but the mind keeps recreating it. That recreation is where much of the suffering lives.
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The past no longer exists. We live with the consequences because we have memories which make us moral beings. So, try to do better now, creating better memories. Forgive yourself. You are not the person you were. Focus on what you want to be now, and do that. Character is what you do when no one is looking. Peace is what you feel when you are looking ahead, and make moral decisions.
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When a lightning hits a tree, either it dies or keeps growing. It does not concern itself with what could have happened if the storm wasn't there.
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Forget about it.
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hmmmm....well i have made quite some big mistakes too that have left some big fkn scars on me and my close ones. i don't know dude, i feel you just gotta find something important to do, get busy with life. the more you stay busy and distracted the more you create space between the guilt and you. and that is important, you need to look at it from a third person pov. atleast that's what's worked for me. depression can't hit a moving target!!! have a good day. be kind.
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But has there been a war really?
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Accept it. Move on from HERE. There is no point in staying stuck there, your life is fading away and we must not let our past ruin our future
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Write it down on paper, then burn the paper until it becomes ash
✦ This sign has found its fate.