Hi....
My case is really different....there is a guy I love and even he loves me .its been 7 months for our relationship. But the thing is he is already married and is 10 years older than me. But we both genuinely care and love for each other. And we belong from different states in India.
What bothers me is that...I don't want to lose him neither does he...and his wife doesn't have any emotions towards him and yet she is not ready for the divorce. And none of our family know about this neither does his wife. I'm confused at this point. And my family is really against other caste people. But I really love him.

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Hi....
My case is really different....there is a guy I love and even he loves me  .its been 7 months for our relationship. But the thing is he is already married and is 10 years older than me. But we both genuinely care and love for each other.  And we belong from different states in India. 
What bothers me is that...I don't want to lose him neither does he...and his wife doesn't have any emotions towards him and yet she is not ready for the divorce. And none of our family know about this neither does his wife. I'm confused at this point. And my family is really against other caste people. But I really love him.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Even if your case is different (which it isn't) I have 2 questions to ask you.

1. If he has shown he will cheat on his wife now, what makes you believe he won't cheat on his wife again when/if that is you?

2. Do you really want to have a marriage built on the foundation of another marriage you both destroyed?

I promise you, this is a bad call. I believe you when you say you love him, but I guarantee you he does not love you. Because in ten years, there will be other women ten years younger than you. You don't deserve love that is built destroying love, and you deserve better than someone who you know is not loyal to love. Don't waste your time on this man. And don't say "But I've spent seven months on him," because the best time to plant a tree was twenty years ago, but the second best time is today. Don't wait any longer please. You deserve to be happy, and this will not bring you joy in the long run.

I believe in you, please believe in yourself