Heyy, so a girl here, actually I have been bothered by this one thing , I have never dated anyone I am 20 and lately a friend of mine introduced me to his friend ( a guy) we went to watch f1 and we matched eachother vibe, then as days ago we chat online we did s*xting cause we both are kinda fr**ky, then he insisted on going for a staycation, ( he clearly told me he can't commit to me ) and even i don't see husband potential in him so I won't date him, as I am date to marry typa person, I was in total dilema if i should say yes to staycation or not then somehow I was convinced, I mentioned him my boundary about ( no s*x , s*x only after marriage) he respected that, that night we kissed it was ny first ever kiss i loved it, then cuddles ofc and then we didi dry h**ping, I even str**ed him, that moment I enjoyed but after days I was feeling lil guilty since he isn't my bf, we met often after that we hangout we kiss , and now he is asking if we can go on another staycation ( i am feeling guilty even thinking about one now) idk I am ok with kissing him hanging out but the moment he mentions *we should get a room we should grab a drink or staycation* i start thinking and I feel heavy, now I am confused should I stick with being friends who hangout kiss sometimes (no staycation) or should I cutoff completely, he is a good friend tho, he is a good listener and I told him abt all this he is emotionally available but yeah its the thing i have to decide so I need help

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Heyy, so a girl here, actually I have been bothered by this one thing , I have never dated anyone I am 20 and lately a friend of mine introduced me to his friend ( a guy) we went to watch f1 and we matched eachother vibe,  then as days ago we chat online we did s*xting cause we both are kinda fr**ky, then he insisted on going for a staycation, ( he clearly told me he can't commit to me ) and even i don't see husband potential in him so I won't date him, as I am date to marry typa person, I was in total dilema if i should say yes to staycation or not then somehow I was convinced, I mentioned him my boundary about ( no s*x , s*x only after marriage) he respected that, that night we kissed it was ny first ever kiss i loved it, then cuddles ofc and then we didi dry h**ping,  I even str**ed him, that moment I enjoyed but after days I was feeling lil guilty since he isn't my bf, we met often after that we hangout we kiss , and now he is asking if we can go on another staycation ( i am feeling guilty even thinking about one now) idk I am ok with kissing him hanging out but the moment he mentions *we should get a room we should grab a drink or staycation*  i start thinking and I feel heavy, now I am confused should I stick with being friends who hangout kiss sometimes (no staycation) or should I cutoff completely, he is a good friend tho, he is a good listener and I told him abt all this he is emotionally available but yeah its the thing i have to decide so I need help

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

chose love over lust, those who only seek you for lust are truly disgusting demons , if you think he only wants your body then leave him , he isnt worth your time and is most likely not worth being your first time , humans are disgusting creatures who will do anything to get to you in those types of ways , if you notice anything fishy , leave . it won't be worth begging even if you THINK you can change him , sometimes love won't be enough to try to fix somebody like that .