“hey i have a real bad sitaution going on with ym realtionship.
So i liked this girl and after lots of try i finally got her.
we had a good time but then my feelings started fading,I had multiple things going bad in my life including financial issues,mental health issues,frienship issues etc..and somewhere i started to have second thought on her also as her family wont gel with my family and soewhere i felt she isnt as good looking and fun as I had pictured my gf would be.
But she was a real innocent soul .
We had a really good 3 months and then we started drifting apart adn we ended up breaking up..
its been 1.5 years and i still think about her.
Like i still love her deep inside but she is not the person i imagined my gf to be and there is the family issue and all.
But i feel like the universe wants us together but i think i have hurted her and I tried to get back with her again last month but she rejected and i am so sad and depressed right now.
But sometimes i think even if i get her back will everythig happen again and what is wrong with me like i got her after so much tires and i itslef let it slip away and now i am greivng and even if she comes back i am scared that i will start having second thoghts,
Is somethign wrong with me”
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Someone answered with kindness...
There is nothing wrong with you. things happen in your life that unfortunately require your attention (mental health, finance etc) so dont be too hard on yourself. however, it is not true love if you are telling yourself "this is not the person i imagined it to be". putting that expectation on your ex would only make it worse. She will live in the shadow of who you want her to be, rather than accepting and TRULY loving her for who she is. dont focus on getting her back until you prove to yourself that you can accept someone fully without putting a condition on them. or you will not be happy. i wish you all the best