Hello! To the person readibg this hope you’re doing fine
So me and my bf we are in long distance been a 8 months before that we were in the same city things were like so good at that time but then somehow he left city and i left it too and then now he is leaving the country for studies which has been weighing on my mind like we barely talk whole day every 15-20 mins and sometime not even that because of his family his online classes his friends I’ve told him so many times that we barely talk and he just ask me “you tell me what should i do, I’m trying, I’m sorry it’s my fault” and i can’t say anything to him because i think it’s not his fault i understand every single time but the thing is I HATE BEING UNDERSTANDING because that’s all I’ve done my whole life
he say a lot of times it’s his fault and when i say “if this happens again i think I’m gonna leave” and then suddenly he says “so you this is my fault in and out?” me talking about leaving hurts him he think when i talk about leaving I’m being rude he wants me to reassure him for his sake that it is not his fault
Rn I’m in that phase where I’m thinking if i should stay or break up but i love him he’s my first bf idk what should i do (thank you for reading this btw)

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Hello! To the person readibg this hope you’re doing fine 
So me and my bf we are in long distance been a 8 months before that we were in the same city things were like so good at that time but then somehow he left city and i left it too and then now he is leaving the country for studies which has been weighing on my mind like we barely talk whole day every 15-20 mins and sometime not even that because of his family his online classes his friends I’ve told him so many times that we barely talk and he just ask me “you tell me what should i do, I’m trying, I’m sorry it’s my fault” and i can’t say anything to him because i think it’s not his fault i understand every single time but the thing is I HATE BEING UNDERSTANDING because that’s all I’ve done my whole life 
 he say a lot of times it’s his fault and when i say “if this happens again i think I’m gonna leave” and then suddenly he says “so you this is my fault in and out?” me talking about leaving hurts him he think when i talk about leaving I’m being rude he wants me to reassure him for his sake that it is not his fault 
Rn I’m in that phase where I’m thinking if i should stay or break up but i love him he’s my first bf idk what should i do (thank you for reading this btw)

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

hello, Im doing good . My answer may not be perfect but it's my opinion. Talk to him about where this is headed. You talking about is not rude you want to be in a good relationship and that is normal.Sometimes somethings are out of our control it may not be his fault but the situation is not the best for a relationship to grow. Ask him what alternatives does he have or how he tries to solve this problem. Sometimes ppl say that he have tried when in reality they did not. Soo ask him what he has done and what he is willing to do. If yall barely talk for a few days then it's alright but if this keeps on going obv the relationship is not even a relationship at this point.I hope things work out and he gets more time but if you guys barely talk what's the point of being in a relationship? Ask yourself what being in a relationship should feel like and does your current relationship match that? What should having someone to love you and be there for you feels like and does he fulfill that? Is he really trying? What is the future of this relationship if you barely even talk. Hope it helps . Good day<3