hello Stranger sorry to bother you but I just want a little help
recently i had my first breakup from a girl who I really loved but she kept crossing my boundaries like disrespecting me , doubting me just because someone said something about me and after every fight putting all the blame on me and in last fight she said "you are the worst thing happen to me and my ex was far better then you even he treated me better" the same ex who she used to say he mistreated her badly which leave a trauma inside her and after 8 years of relation cheated on her .
and as we are in same colleage and same hostel campus i kept seeing her
and only in few weeks of break I see her hanging out with a male senior and getting close with him like sitting too closely in cafe and holding hand and walking in night out in campus on weekend
I just cant understand how can she replace me with him this easily and quickly
i just want to move on and focus on myself alone

Question

hello Stranger sorry to bother you but I just want a little help 
recently i had my first breakup from a girl who I really loved but she kept crossing my boundaries like disrespecting me , doubting me just because someone said something about me and after every fight putting all the blame on me and in last fight she said "you are the worst thing happen to me and my ex was far better then you even he treated me better" the same ex who she used to say he mistreated her badly which leave a trauma inside her and after 8 years of relation cheated on her .
and as we are in same colleage and same hostel campus i kept seeing her 
and only in few weeks of break I see her hanging out with a male senior and getting close with him like sitting too closely in cafe and holding hand and walking in night out in campus on weekend 
I just cant understand how can she replace me with him this easily and quickly 
i just want to move on and focus  on myself alone

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Hii am a girl and i understand your problem.. first of all leave that person not just in external world but internally as well. Do positive affirmations set a timer for 10-15 mins and randomly start affirming like - " everything is working in my favor" " I am perfect" It may sound stupid but atleast try it for 30 days .. don't listen to any sad music or overall any music for some days .. sleep early , adopt a hobby if u don't have currently, know yourself , spend some time alone with yourself heal and grow. May you heal soon!!