Hello! it's about my relationship with my boyfriend this year we'll be 3yrs with 1 year of long distance from last year onwards since we got into long distance I knew that things are going to be difficult for me for us to cope up with and it is about giving each other time my boyfriend works almost 10-7 sometimes 8 and he gets home late most of the time from the office then dinner and then again office work for home somewhere between his totally busy schedule he's not giving me the "Our time" for talking sometimes he talks inspite of having work sometimes he gets soo sick and tired of it that he just goes to sleep sometimes he gets home he comes online around 12- 12:30 in the midnight to talk and then he feels sleepy and he sleeps I do understand that he's having a busy schedule and workload but I don't know how to cope up with it . Few days ago we had a heated argument that turned into a fight because I was waiting for him and when he came to talk to me he fell asleep I got irritated on that because I make time for us so that atleast we can talk out heart out with each other as we barely get to talk with each other on voice call because mostly I stay at home and my family members they'll eventually hear me so we do text conversation but these days honestly I'm not feeling good at all I'm not getting to talk to him although he told me that he's having pressure of work on him but I feel so incomplete without talking to him and it bothers me each and everytime we don't get to talk to each other due to any reason and we've got into fight many a times Ive explained him many times Ive explained him how I feel on this many a times this is not a new issue but still nothing changes now we are barely talking to each other and I just feel like that I'm not his priority he's prioritising work I do understand that as well I asked him to give me atleast a reassurance so that I don't feel completely abandoned or completely ignored by him but his way of giving reassurance is not affectionate at all it feels like as he said it out of frustration cuz I keep on over explaining him and begging him to give me time . This time I'm literally I'm sick and tired of doing this same thing again and I don't know how to cope with it I just want to stay unbothered as he stays when something goes off within us each and every time it bothers me and he stays unbothered by it I don't want to overthink I don't even want to expect even love from him now I'm so tired of it I just don't know how I can make myself be as unbothered as he stays cuz I go crazy and when I see that he doesn't feels the same it makes me go crazier even more and somewhere between all these I'm becoming toxic or what I don't know but I'm do becoming toxic for my own self and I just don't want to go to bed crying and overthinking each and every night thinking that he doesn't loves me anymore. I just want to stay happy feel loved of my own I just want to detach myself from him but I'm really struggling alot in this with my emotions and it's being so hard for me. If someone has read this till hear or can relate or help me with this please do drop a reply.

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Hello! it's about my relationship with my boyfriend this year we'll be 3yrs with 1 year of long distance from last year onwards since we got into long distance I knew that things are going to be difficult for me for us to cope up with and it is about giving each other time my boyfriend works almost 10-7 sometimes 8 and he gets home late most of the time from the office then dinner and then again office work for home somewhere between his totally busy schedule he's not giving me the "Our time" for talking sometimes he talks inspite of having work sometimes he gets soo sick and tired of it that he just goes to sleep sometimes he gets home he comes online around 12- 12:30 in the midnight to talk and then he feels sleepy and he sleeps I do understand that he's having a busy schedule and workload but I don't know how to cope up with it . Few days ago we had a heated argument that turned into a fight because I was waiting for him and when he came to talk to me he fell asleep I got irritated on that because I make time for us so that atleast we can talk out heart out with each other as we barely get  to talk with each other on voice call because mostly I stay at home and my family members they'll eventually hear me so we do text conversation but these days honestly I'm not feeling good at all I'm not getting to talk to him although he told me that he's having pressure of work on him but I feel so incomplete without talking to him and it bothers me each and everytime we don't get to talk to each other due to any reason and we've got into fight many a times Ive explained him many times Ive explained him how I feel on this many a times this is not a new issue but still nothing changes now we are barely talking to each other and I just feel like that I'm not his priority he's prioritising work I do understand that as well I asked him to give me atleast a reassurance so that I don't feel completely abandoned or completely ignored by him but his way of giving reassurance is not affectionate at all it feels like as he said it out of frustration cuz I keep on over explaining him and begging him to give me time . This time I'm literally I'm sick and tired of doing this same thing again and I don't know how to cope with it I just want to stay unbothered as he stays when something goes off within us each and every time it bothers me and he stays unbothered by it I don't want to overthink I don't even want to expect even love from him now I'm so tired of it I just don't know how I can make myself be as unbothered as he stays cuz I go crazy and when I see that he doesn't feels the same it makes me go crazier even more and somewhere between all these I'm becoming toxic or what I don't know but I'm do becoming toxic for my own self and I just don't want to go to bed crying and overthinking each and every night thinking that he doesn't loves me anymore. I just want to stay happy feel loved of my own I just want to detach myself from him but I'm really struggling alot in this with my emotions and it's being so hard for me. If someone has read this till hear or can relate or help me with this please do drop a reply.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

I know it's really hard for you right now. But if there are no major conflicts apart from only this one thing, then maybe giving some space might be better. 
There are many online videos and internet adviced you to leave when few minor things happen, which isn't healthy approach.
However , you have other issues like example disrespect, non loyalty etc or you having a consistent feeling that this isn't working out due to some core issue then you should accept the fact that maybe this isn't working for you both and try moving on instead.