hello. i’m 23 dating my 35 y/o bf.
he was in a relationship for 14 years before me. (the ex was abusive verbally and physically towards the end) he met me last year. we became friends and eventually held hands and what not. clearly liked each other. we both were dating people. i broke up w my bf at the time. he got cold feet and left me and said i want to try with her. but he didn’t. he went and broke up with her. now i have retroactive jealousy. i break down everything he says amd wonder if he did the same thing for her eventhough he tries to reassure me. i get graphic visuals of them getting intimate eventhough his sex life tjen comprised of sex twice a year.

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hello. i’m 23 dating my 35 y/o bf. 
he was in a relationship for 14 years before me. (the ex was abusive verbally and physically towards the end) he met me last year. we became friends and eventually held hands and what not. clearly liked each other. we both were dating people. i broke up w my bf at the time. he got cold feet and left me and said i want to try with her. but he didn’t. he went and broke up with her. now i have retroactive jealousy. i break down everything he says amd wonder if he did the same thing for her eventhough he tries to reassure me. i get graphic visuals of them getting intimate eventhough his sex life tjen comprised of sex twice a year.

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Girl I think that you should not overthink it. Don't think about the past now. NOW he is yours only. She is not in his life now you are. If he does something that he thinks you will like and make you happy and you like it, just be happy and live the present. Really trust me don't overthink it.