Good evening, I need your advice.

I’ve been with a man for a year. At first, everything was great, but for the past three months or so, he changed completely and became very negative. I suspected he was cheating on me, and eventually, I got confirmation—he was talking to other women. When I confronted him about it, he told me that a woman is supposed to be submissive.

When I brought this up with my mother, she blamed me instead, asking why I had gone through his phone in the first place. That hurt so much.

I want to add that whenever there’s an issue, he is extremely proud, ignoring and snubbing me. In the end, I packed all my things from his place and dropped off his keys while he was away.

I’m in so much pain right now because I still love him. Please, what should I do?

Question

Good evening, I need your advice.

I’ve been with a man for a year. At first, everything was great, but for the past three months or so, he changed completely and became very negative. I suspected he was cheating on me, and eventually, I got confirmation—he was talking to other women. When I confronted him about it, he told me that a woman is supposed to be submissive.

When I brought this up with my mother, she blamed me instead, asking why I had gone through his phone in the first place. That hurt so much.

I want to add that whenever there’s an issue, he is extremely proud, ignoring and snubbing me. In the end, I packed all my things from his place and dropped off his keys while he was away.

I’m in so much pain right now because I still love him. Please, what should I do?

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

You did the right thing. It will be hard to maintain yourself in this position, but you've chosen correctly: yourself.

No man is worth the aggravation, or so the song goes.

It'll be hard for a while, but you will thank yourself in the long run. Live life, get busy.