“from the last 2 weeks my gf has been distant and me being a rookie to relationships, i started overthinking and said some really harsh things to her. we started talking again but she started ignoring me, even on my birthday. she is studying really hard for medical school and i support her fully, but the 4.5 hour time difference between our countries make it difficult. we barely talk anymore, no pictures, voice or video calls, and i dont write poems for her anymore. last night we planned a movie date but i fell asleep, and i almost sent her more toxic bf texts before deleting them and sending comforting messages instead. she still hasnt replied, and i dont know what she feels because she is never clear about her emotions. ive read books, watched podcasts and youtube videos, but i still fail to apply their concepts in real life. i feel like im not strong enough to be the boyfriend she deserves. i know i should think for myself instead of listening to some douche bags online, but here i am, asking another one for help. im feeling really lonely and just dont know what to do. please help me. thankss”
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Someone answered with kindness...
i would give a advice or confronting her but only after you know that you're putting enough efforts and you haven't changed yourself, and you are as before , confront her ,tell her clearly about your feelings and how you're feeling because she's getting distant and ask her the reason for that and also tc of yourself don't invest in it sm or overthink about it so much don't let her distant nature ruin your day, i mean be honest and let her be honest if there's something she found u doing wrong let her speak and ask her to communicate more and be as you guys used to