🥹🥺(for your attention only ;)
i want raw and honest answers advices ,no sugarcoating (you can reply in hindi as well)

i (male 24,corporate job, india )have 0 dating exp.,virgin till now and i hope to find a girl with whom i can grow together ,who is similar to me .
you would be thinking its coming from a incel or a virgin thats why i'm asking this but i think there is something natural , organic about that first love/r.ship which you can't expect or give in your subsequent relationships. i strongly believe, there is always those memories,past wounds,traumas,comparisons.
there is a reason it is said that boys wanna be a girl's first love , and girls wanna be a boys last love

ok still no issues i am working upon myself in every aspect

but the thing (and my question) is majority of my friend group, their friends, girls online are in relationship , which kinda make me unsecure that come on for whom you are waiting/saving yourself in this era,where every girl is having multiple r.ships in her 20s only
then there is a saying also that girls like experienced men more so that we get more accustomed, and know,learn about their nature and all so that i can be a good partner in future?

don't reply just work ,time will come for everything

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🥹🥺(for your attention only ;)
i want raw and honest answers advices ,no sugarcoating (you can reply in hindi as well)

i (male 24,corporate job, india )have 0 dating exp.,virgin till now and i hope to find a girl with whom i can grow together ,who is similar to me .
you would be thinking its coming from a incel or a virgin thats why i'm asking this but i think there is something natural , organic about that first love/r.ship which you can't expect or give in your subsequent relationships. i strongly believe, there is always those memories,past wounds,traumas,comparisons. 
there is a reason it is said that boys wanna be a girl's first love , and girls wanna be a boys last love

ok still no issues i am working upon myself in every aspect

but the thing (and my question) is majority of my friend group, their friends, girls online are in relationship , which kinda make me unsecure that come on for whom you are waiting/saving yourself in this era,where every girl is having multiple r.ships in her 20s only 
then there is a saying also that girls like experienced men more so that we get more accustomed, and know,learn about their nature and all so that i can be a good partner in future?

don't reply just work ,time will come for everything

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

Honestly, as a girl, I don't think you're asking for too much. And please don't let the current dating culture make you feel like your expectations are unrealistic or that you're somehow missing out on life.

I personally believe in the kind of love you're talking about. I want my future partner's first love to be me, just as I want him to be my first love. I want us to experience those little things together, learn about each other, make memories, make mistakes, grow, and figure out relationships together. I want that feeling of discovering love with someone who is discovering it with me. Maybe I'm a little old-fashioned, but I genuinely value that.

And no, I'm not saying that people who have had previous relationships are bad or incapable of loving someone genuinely. Everyone has a different story, and having a past doesn't make someone less worthy of love. But at the same time, we shouldn't pretend that everyone has to be comfortable with everything. It's okay to have your own preferences and expectations in a relationship.

One thing I really want to tell you is that please don't start looking at every girl as someone who has probably had multiple relationships. That's simply not true. Just because your friends or people around you have experienced relationships doesn't mean everyone has. There are girls who think exactly like you, who are waiting for something genuine, who don't want to date just for the sake of dating, and who would rather wait than force a connection.

Also, the idea that girls naturally prefer experienced men is not some universal truth. You don't need a relationship history to know how to respect, understand, communicate with or care for someone. Those are qualities you develop through maturity, empathy and self-awareness. A man who is willing to listen, communicate honestly, respect boundaries and put genuine effort into understanding his partner can be a wonderful partner, regardless of his dating history.

But here's my honest advice: don't turn your lack of dating experience into an insecurity, and don't turn your expectations into a deadline. Don't spend your twenties constantly wondering whether you're waiting for someone who doesn't exist. Work on yourself, build your career, explore life, become independent and enjoy your own company.

And one more thing: don't settle for someone just because you're afraid that you're getting older or that everyone else has already found someone. The right relationship shouldn't feel like a competition where you have to catch up with everyone.

I would rather have one genuine connection that I never have to question than a hundred experiences just to say I've experienced love.

You don't have to change your values just because they're less common around you. Just make sure your expectations come from what you genuinely value, not from fear of someone else's past.

And honestly, I hope you find someone who doesn't make you feel inexperienced, but makes you feel that you're both exactly where you're supposed to be. Someone who is as excited to build something with you as you are with her.

Don't rush something you want to last. ❤️