Someone once asked...
Someone answered with kindness...
Bad choice
Another soul answered...
Yes you did
Another soul answered...
It is your choice. No one else should validate or invalidate it. So you must be ok with your own choices.
Another soul answered...
It's often difficult to weigh the times where family did you good or bad. Sometimes, everyone is holding a match around the fire. This matter is not definitive, and time helps people realize whether a mistake has been made.