“Bit of a life stuck issue. Currently in a position where my mom is dying of cancer (last weeks/months of her life), I've been looking to buy a house/appartment for +2years now and not finding anything so I still live at home at 28, I can't seem to find a girlfriend and feel pretty lonely at times. I feel pretty stuck in general because of all these things combined. I changed jobs to earn more money and it is way more fun to earn more money, I still feel like I'm stuck and earning even more won't get me closer to my goal. What should I do random person? Not looking for the end-all-be-all answer but some external insight might help?”

Another soul answered...

Is buying the house your goal? If so, earning more money definitely gets you closer to it. Otherwise, what IS your goal? The most telling thing in the entire message is that you never defined it clearly. You need to know what you want. You're now daying that you kinda feel lonely, kinda looking for a house, you mention some emotionally heavy stuff but then in the next sentence talk about an appartment as if nothing happened... I have a sense of lack of direction here. Do a writing exercise. In 5 years, imagine heaven. How does your life looks like if things work out 100%? Then imagine hell. How does your life look like if you fail completely? Write about heaven for 15 mins continuously. Write about hell for 15 mins co to uously. Read it again the day after. See what stands out. Focus on it. Ignore other stuff, maybe it's not as important as you think it is. Maybe you don't really want a relationship right now. This is fine. Or maybe you are okay living where you live. This is also fine. You need to live your own life and not follow some kind of schema. If you ask me, I'm not sure what you should do now because you just mentioned many distinct areas of your life and you will mot get 100% in all of them. Nobody does. Relax, you are good enough.