Am I protecting myself from getting hurt, or am I accidentally pushing away the things I actually want, and how can I tell the difference?

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Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

You can know the difference once you sit somewhere preferably comfortable (I mean it even the lighting and the ambience matters )don't force yourself to think really hard but just think of it like 
Am I scared ?
Am I alright ?
What is happening ?
What am I feeling?
Do I need this ?
If yes why I am pushing it ?
Okay then what should I do to make it better ?
Just like this figure  things with your heart 
In utter sikence or mild noise that depends but try to hear your inner voice and monologue that will tell you more than you ever fear and think

“Am I protecting myself from getting hurt, or am I accidentally pushing away the things I actually want, and how can I tell the difference?”