“About 1½ years ago, some random guy from my church (who is basically 2, 3, or 4 years older than me) asked me if I had a boyfriend. I was 16 at the time, studying in +2, and I said, "Yes, I have a boyfriend," even though I didn't. I wasn't interested in a relationship, and I didn't want to lead him on.
As the days passed, I started noticing him and thinking about him. Basically, I became obsessed with him! I wished he would message me again.
Then, about a year later, around four months ago, he messaged me again. I had moved away to a different place, not too far but still far enough. He told me that he had a crush on me, and I told him that I wasn't interested in a relationship.
He doesn't know that I have a crush on him. But I don't think I want a relationship either. However, he's still messaging me, sending me reels, and everything.
I wanted to stop leading him on, so I thought about not replying to his messages. But he said that I wasn't giving him any hope and asked me not to ignore him. Today, I made up my mind and talk to him like it is wrong when I give him false hope and everything. And finally I blocked him. I can actually feel that weight in my chest😭😭😭.... I just can't stop crying.
I don't know what to do. Am I a bad person?🥲”
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Someone answered with kindness...
I dont think you r a bad person at all!! U set your boundaries and chose yourself. Thats a something to be proud about<3
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Wandering voices — answers no one has read yet
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Another soul answered...
you are not a bad person, if you have told him you dont wanna be in a relationship he should take the hint and respect your decision. if he still doesnt get the hint, dont entertain him.
also he should maybe approach someone of his own age?