“​A work friend and I have grown really close over the past half-year. We message each other late into the night, and she tells me about all her daily struggles. I've caught feelings for her, but I am totally unsure of where I stand in her heart. ​Our friendship is full of ups and downs. One day we chat nonstop, and then the next she completely stops responding. I don't feel like she's ignoring me on purpose—she's probably just overwhelmed with her own troubles. ​At this moment, we haven't spoken in two days. I am just sitting here waiting for her text, and I want to talk to her so badly. It makes me really anxious and scared of losing her. But whenever she finally reappears and acts like everything is normal, I get too nervous to bring it up. ​What should my next step be?”

Another soul answered...

I might not give you the best solution. But. You should initiate conversations with her too. If you already do thats great, after your work, take her out to grab some lunch, or just some random day take her out to play a sport or anywhere you both are involved but not like a Club. Make her moments spent with you more and more happy. And Once you feel like. She's happy. She has a Comfort and Safe space with you. You should confess her what you feel like. The worst she could do is deny to you. And thats okay. Its completely okay. But If she denies you. To date. Dont at all get friendzoned, dont be always available for her. Each time she initiates to go out with you. Deny. Or say we both know how I feel. And I can't hurt myself. Or you. By thinking and Doing what I feel. This might sound like an emotional Roller coaster. But in reality. Something will change in her mind. All those happy moments. Are just suddenly gone. She'd realise your worth. It'll take Time. But in this time don't spend time with her only. Go with your other work friends. Or other people. But dont just keep wagging behind her. Give her space. Meet her sometimes. Talk to her sometimes. But Keep your feelings and Wants clear. And if it gets a lot of time. She doesnt thinks the same way as you do. You should better move on. With your own life. And Maybe find someone who's Attracted to you as you are, it'll be VERY DIFFICULT for you to let go of someone you caught feelings for. But if you dont let go. You wont stay happy at all. You'd stay disturbed. So make her happy and safe. Tell her how you feel. and if she doesnt reciprocated the same feelings. Take a step back. Give her space and time to be alone. Be available but Not all the time. Rarely go out alone. And Make that a Sudden change after confessing your feelings..... I hope this helps.