3 of my mutual friends used to be vlose as a trio until two of them say A and B distanced with 3rd frind say C few months backs while i was friends with both until one day A and B tells me that C has been suspected of making an account on insta impersonating friend B and harassing a girl
Now friend B got Ofcourse defamed plus point to add he had a spam acc only A and C followed picture used by the person impersonating was from spam acc
They took out ip address from insta
Matched typing style
And ofc the spam accounts one
Everything pointed towards friend C
I was told after sometime and was told to not confront cause they wanted to catch him red handed
3 weeks gone no move and we confronted
He should his defences which were too weak except that ip address cannot be taken up from an insta acc
He was weakly defending himself 2 3 days
And we had same proof indirectly pointing gowards him
I had to distance with since he was also now being defamed
Until i forced them to confront eachother again
And we get to know friend A had havked into C account to check on she found all irrelevant stuff not related but not anything proving him as behind account
My friend C now wants me to distance like very muvh distance with friend A
But neither did i distanced with him nor can i do with her i live in hostel with her we hang out travel together to college its hard as hell
Idk what to do i wamt everything to settle
I feel hypocritical if i go to friend C side everyone says i have no morale no self respect
If i go their side friend C side says i have double standards and again no morals
In the end i am the one indecisive and witj no esteem to fight i feel stuck my mental health has been ruined badly

Question

3 of my mutual friends used to be vlose as a trio until two of them say A and B  distanced with 3rd frind say C few months backs while i was friends with both until one day A and B tells me that C has been suspected of making an account on insta impersonating friend B and harassing a girl
Now friend B got Ofcourse defamed plus point to add he had a spam acc only A and C followed picture used by the person impersonating was from spam acc
They took out ip address from insta
Matched typing style
And ofc the spam accounts one 
Everything pointed towards friend C
I was told after sometime and was told to not confront cause they wanted to catch him red handed
3 weeks gone no move and we confronted 
He should his defences which were too weak except that ip address cannot be taken up from an insta acc
He was weakly defending himself 2 3 days
And we had same proof indirectly pointing gowards him
I had to distance with since he was also now being defamed
Until i forced them to confront eachother again
And we get to know friend A had havked into C account to check on she found all irrelevant stuff not related but not anything proving him as behind account 
My friend C now wants me to distance like very muvh distance with friend A
But neither did i distanced with him nor can i do with her i live in hostel with her we hang out travel together to college its hard as hell
Idk what to do i wamt everything to settle 
I feel hypocritical if i go to friend C side everyone says i have no morale no self respect 
If i go their side friend C side says i have double standards and again no morals
In the end i am the one indecisive and witj no esteem to fight i feel stuck my mental health has been ruined badly

Anonymous Practitioner · Accepted Answer

i have a similar dynamic whith a friend who i love that is still in an old friend group that bullied me. we get along really well, though everytime im mentioned to the old friend group they try to convince my friend to lie about being busy and needing to cancel and say im forcing them to hang out with me. i just ask when theyre free and we hang out, though i feel bad about them hanging out with this friend group more than me because it reminds me of when they invited everyone but me to school activites, trips, events, calls and video games and then talk about it in front of me and act normal. i mean they invited a rapist they hated and this transphobic person(the leader of the friend group was trans) but im too much to invite and im not given i reason. i warn this friend about all the toxic stuff they did to me and hear about how the head of the friend group has said warnings about me the same way. i realize this makes me sound like im awful and not self aware, but they coincidentely turned on me right after i came out and also this one person bullied me and they all exactly mimicked stuff she did. they had like forty reasons to not like me and only like two of them were my fault and im never going to know which ones it was.
sorry for yapping so much, i thought it would be good to share a perspecitve. it's difficult having friends who hate each other. i would say as long as there isnt conclusive evidence and otherwise they are good person to you and everyone else you can just be friends with both of them, though it is hard to see how people treat other people when they arent around you. you didnt talk much about your own opinions on these people and you need to form your opinions seperate from this he-said-she-said drama. i would also make sure to have uninvolved friends so you feel less pressure about making this choice. i know you want to go back to eveyone getting along but it doesnt seem like that will happen. it's upsetting when close people see you as a bad person, even if youre not friends anymore.